One of the happiest days of my life was a random one.. One day I woke up by myself warm and comfortable with a big smile on my face and I realized I was happy and I felt safe and satisfied with myself and my life. All those uncomfortable days and nights spent getting to know myself and dealing with my crap and healing finally paid off. In trying to find the life that is right for me I found myself and I really like her!
I've learned that self love is found in the small choices that make us feel like we just hugged ourselves. Not in the grand gestures of accomplishments we often celebrate with others. The things I do just for me that go unnoticed by others are the things that make me feel most satisfied and humbly sated! There is no need to boast to anyone about them. It is enough for just me to know. I have no need to share.. How much I love me is between me and God. We both know when I have quietly and peacefully honored myself. In my mind I tilt my head up to heaven as He looks down and we wink and smile at each other. This morning when I woke up with choices about how to spend my beautiful Sunday was one of those times. The strength in that moment is unmistakable and unlike any other. It becomes a state of "being" in union with the source that created me. It's a beautiful gratitude based consciousness of non judgement where a confidant smile of acceptance becomes my indestructible badge of honor. I feel like I should get a gold star that says " I found Me" ! Knowing what is right for yourself and being unshakeable in your truth is amazing.
How did I get to this beautiful place? How did I find me?
While I don't consider myself an expert but more a work in progress, I can only share what I have learned.
Its a very hard battle. It's also the most important and rewarding fight of your life. You don't have to be Joan of Arc or Superman to fight for the right to love yourself and be happy.
You just have to ..well be yourself! And most important BE WITH YOURSELF! Alone!
So here is what I've learned so far....
1- Spend time alone without running for distractions. No drinking, drugging , serial dating , over eating or unhealthy attachments. Just you spending time in a relationship with yourself. Be prepared to be uncomfortable. You are going to hurt and feel exhausted but you have to review your life honestly. Giving yourself the time to do this is the first step to loving yourself.
2- Review your life. This takes time as you work through things that come up. Own it all, the grief and regrets, the times you should have done better, the joy and the pride, the things you did right, the things that feed you soul and you want to do more of and the things you don't want to do anymore. Own all of it. Accept credit and responsibility equally. Learn to love praise and criticism equally and impersonally. You are who you are. You have to love the dark and the light in you. This is unconditional love for yourself.
3- Honor the work you've done reviewing your life by honoring what it taught you about yourself. Yes, start to honor what you have learned in the hours you spent with yourself. This is love. This is self care. MAKE CHANGES. Everyday make a small change to lead you closer to the way you want to be and find a way to do more of the things you want to do to make you happy. Honor yourself by clearing the things from your life you no longer want around you, don't want to be with and no longer want to do. This includes clearing people, places, habits and behaviors that don't make you happy. This is clearing what no longer serves you. This is self respect and love. Loving yourself means you provide the safe, healthy and supportive world that you desire and deserve. Knowing you deserve a life that brings you to your highest potential is healthy love. Steps 1-3 will connect you with yourself and God.
4- Create ...Appreciate your gifts. Start to honor the gifts and talents that God made uniquely yours and quietly give them and share them with others. This more than anything will give you joy. Step 4 connects you with others through your creativity.
Sing, play music, paint, garden, teach, write whatever is your talent share it. This is sharing love. You will feel even better about yourself when you do this.
5- Commit to yourself . Know that no matter where you are in life you will always nurture and take time to continue to love and honor yourself and honor the beautiful person you are through your choices and actions. This enable you to know you will always take care of yourself and be ok. This allows us to be independent and not enter into co dependent relationships. This is the epitome of self love.
Like I said it's not the grand gestures it's the small things that say " I love me" that add up to a beautiful life.
It could be laying down to take a nap on a Saturday afternoon guilt free or walking away and deleting someone from your phone that causes needless drama. It could be selling the old dishes you used to eat on with your ex at a yard sale and buying pretty new ones. Or it could be making a huge life change towards your dream. Whatever makes you happy and brings you to a higher good..just do it. FLY. First Love Yourself!
Peace and love,
Spiritual Healer, Energetic Medium
This Blog is the story of the miracles, challenges and lessons of my life journey. Years ago when I hit a personal "rock bottom" my despair led me to seek answers and my quest for truth began. Amazing events propelled me on a spiritual journey of transformation.. Miraculously, through these experiences my life has become my teacher and my friend.... I hope my words connect us and allow us to walk together for a time as teacher and friend to each other. The most valuable thing we have during this human experience is our connection to love. The love in our soul for a higher power and others is the only thing that is real. I honor these connections through my writing. Theses words are my gift inspired through the heart of Spirit for you. I hope by sharing my journey it will enlighten, inspire and ease yours as it does mine >> ... Peace... Georgia Rose