Creating A Joyful Life
It is possible to create the life you desire and dream about. You can change your life to be satisfying, happy and stress free. For those of you who just read that statement and sarcastically thought yeah right, easy for her to say…then your first step is to change your thinking. Because that voice that said that to you is really telling you that you don’t deserve to be happy or loved or financially secure. And quite frankly anyone who says that to you should be kicked out of your life. Even you!
So, the first step to creating the life you want is you gotta’ kick your own ass! Yup! Face the places that YOU are not working for you! Beat the crap out of that old identity that you allowed yourself to form by negative situations. You know that voice in your head that keeps you depressed and defeated, because you have had some rough times? Well it’s just a voice it doesn’t have to be the boss of you. Take back your power and don’t be a wimp. Those horrible experiences we’ve had taught us to think and act and to love the wrong way. They became the story of our life. The fact that we loved to tell that story over and over until it manifested in our current reality is not anyone’s fault, not even yours so drop the blame while you are kicking that “you” to the curb. You are ready to learn a new way of living now. Everything that has happened to you so far has had a hand in bringing you to this place. You are a powerful creation of God. In fact, be grateful to all the people, partners and family that have come before to teach you these lessons. Use the pain and anger to propel yourself forward. Negative emotions like shame and anger are good when used for assertion and not aggression. Deny them and you will never create a joyful life. They will keep rearing up to create a circle of epic failures and crazy making that until today has probably been your current life.
Recognize today as a new day and a fresh start. Be very brave with your “out with the old and in with the new attitude” and reconcile and purge with love and kindness until you are clean. Then, thank everyone including yourself for those harsh but somehow beautiful lessons that have created the person you are and start reinventing yourself. Let go of the old sad, defeated, deprived, undeserving, scared and sarcastic you. Take a walk by the ocean. Put the energy of you and that old life in a rock and throw it in the surf. Let it all go. Purge and cleanse that identity forever. Give it a nice goodbye and close the lid.
The bonus here is that once you let go of that “you” your shame and fear and anxiety and unworthiness disappear. And now there is nothing holding us back. This is where we start to cruise at high altitude. We start to feel good and energetic and hopeful about our life. We are on a high. “Look at me I am getting it together”. We are energized to start anew! But we still have much work to do…
We start to feel an unfamiliar sense of freedom and that is good - but with its unfamiliar energy comes fear and confusion which is also daunting. We find ourselves thinking …” ok now what”? The problem is we are cruising at a good altitude but the plane is empty. We have shed the old “you” but we haven’t replaced him yet. This is the confusing time where we may feel like crying a lot as the ground beneath us slips away and we are a bit lost. Take comfort in this sponginess under your feet because it is a beautiful void where we get to put whatever we want in this space. Confusion is a good thing! It is a sign that things are changing and not staying the same! This is the space where we can create our desired life. It is also the space that leads us to connect with the source that created us. Don’t fear this space embrace it! If your intentions are pure the universe will support you. This confusion and groundlessness is where our creation begins. And by connecting with our source in this space we begin for the first time to co create our life with divine energy, the ultimate source of love. And nothing is more powerful than that!
But where do we start?
Start with what motivates you.
Find what motivates you! What are your “hot buttons”? My hot buttons are Yoga and meditation. This puts me in a state of joy where I am free to create from my heart and the heart of Spirit. Doing healing work also puts me on a huge high as it heals me when I heal others. These are my “soul” motivators. Music is a huge motivator for me too. That is my “joy” button. Dancing is a “love” motivator for me. That connection on the dance floor grooving and rocking out with my friends creates love and feeds the sexuality that restores my Kundalini and feeds my Chakras. I love fast cars and boats (wind therapy) and travel and the feel of expensive clothes on my body. These are my “abundantly alive” buttons which energize me and bring me the motivation to create wealth in my life. I love higher learning and the fascination that happens when you feel a new a wrinkle created in your brain. That is my “growth” motivator to seek knowledge and it makes me thankful for the creation of my brain. But the common denominator in all these motivators is FREEDOM! That is my true hot button and so I have used that motivator to carve out my life. Everything I do and all the things mentioned above are with the intention of freedom. Free to love, free to go, free to do, free to give, free to receive, free to feed my soul, free to connect to Spirit in Unity and know my source of creation intimately! FREE to be!
I love these things for the joy and love they bring but I am not attached to any of them. I am only attached to the source – Spirit, God that created me and all these things through His ultimate love. I connect to love by co creating my life with God. It’s not about the shiny sports car but about the joy of feeling its precision and celebrating the creation of it and the freedom I feel. It’s not about the pulsating beat in the club but about the joyful freedom of dancing. It’s not about making money it’s about the freedom it gives me. In short it all has the vibration of love. I use all this to create a beautiful and soul centered life wholeheartedly based on the connection in my heart. I am no longer ruled by possession or “wants” or things. Thus, these passionate motivations give me pure accomplishments. I have learned to live full throttle through good intention, which is, quite simply = love. We can all live this way. It is our birthright. Believe that you deserve it.
Motivation when paired with right action and good intention is what creates a beautiful life for us and frees the soul!
Once we find what motivates us, if we pair it with intention we become a magician in our own lives. Intention is the golden key to creation. When every decision we make, every choice, every action is about love and kindness…magic starts to happen. By setting the intention of love for ourselves then reflecting that intention in our actions with others we become unstoppable. Dreams fall in to place and abundance comes in every way. No longer held back by jealousy, fear, deprivation, anger, shame or unworthiness we become joy and peace and love and the universe answers our vibration in turn. Soon you will feel your soul growing free! But first there are the changes.
After we let go of the old way and let our old identity die, we must forge a new identity based on the authentic motivation of our soul. After you find what motivates the real you, act towards that. Make lists, make a schedule, write your plan down. Reduce it to the lowest common task. When we give ourselves a set plan to follow we are more likely to do it. For instance, don’t just say I’m going to lose 10 lbs. Be specific- Friday at 10 I am going to join weight watchers, and at 10:30 I am going food shopping etc... Set an alarm on your phone and make the intention real. Say over and over I am doing this with love. Who doesn’t want to be loved right? It feels so good to love yourself, you will want to keep doing it! Don’t just say I need to save money but instead write yourself a check every Friday morning at 9am. You deserve to love yourself! Make it real. Make the love you have for yourself real. Then let it reach others. Reach out to friends and make a difference in their lives. Send a meaningful text or call. Let the love in your heart spread outward. Soon people will be calling you. Our lives are enriched by love. But only when it is balanced in equal amounts of giving and receiving does it enrich us. Loving to your detriment or with expectations will only drain you as will taking too much love without reciprocity. We block our happiness and progress at reinventing ourselves by clinging to unbalanced situations. So, work hard to balance the love in your life. After we accomplish some small steps and get the hang of that, then we are ready for the big changes.
The job change, the break up, the move, the reconciling and the repairs, the purging and the sweeping of the porch that we would rather keep walking past than look at, all of it eventually has its turn for metamorphosis. All the things in the box that is our life that need to be changed will slowly be. Changing the small things gives us the courage for the bigger changes. As we keep pairing our motivation with good intentions for ourselves and others the magic keeps happening. The scale of our lives slowly falls into balance and now the imbalances that were once so comfortable become very unappealing as we grow towards the harmonious and happy place we have been longing for. Soon the life we have always dreamed of materializes. But it is not easy.
It’s hard to purge our old dysfunctional identity. He wants to react from deep instinct and has many triggers. But that identity is born of negative things and as such he is annihilated by good pure intentions.
Being pure of intention does not mean we need to live like a monk or hold ourselves to outrageous divine deprivation or standard like fasting or silence. It does not mean we should abandon things we love to pursue the worlds idea of divinity. On the contrary staying pure, staying in love means living in the real world and seeking pleasure through experiencing healthy connection with people and living a joyful life. That means the only thing that is real which is LOVE becomes our reason for being and our intention for all things. Love is the operating system that drives the engine in a healthy life.
It is important to keep checking our choices and motivations as we create our life. We must ask often… Am I doing this in love or out of anger or jealousy or obligation? Does this honor the amazing soul I have been given? Does this honor another’s soul? What do I hope to gain by saying or doing this? Am I acting out of an old pattern born from abuse or deprivation or is this my true self? Is it pure intention? When we do things with love and not out of anger or obligation or confusion it is always a charmed outcome because our co-creator is divine energy.
I have been able to make great changes and live a happy healthy life by pairing right action and good intention with my own goals. When we do this, we become powerful creators and are free to manifest all we desire. If there is any “secret” to changing your life this is it. I hope my journey helps you on yours.
Peace and love,
Spiritual Healer, Energetic Medium
This Blog is the story of the miracles, challenges and lessons of my life journey. Years ago when I hit a personal "rock bottom" my despair led me to seek answers and my quest for truth began. Amazing events propelled me on a spiritual journey of transformation.. Miraculously, through these experiences my life has become my teacher and my friend.... I hope my words connect us and allow us to walk together for a time as teacher and friend to each other. The most valuable thing we have during this human experience is our connection to love. The love in our soul for a higher power and others is the only thing that is real. I honor these connections through my writing. Theses words are my gift inspired through the heart of Spirit for you. I hope by sharing my journey it will enlighten, inspire and ease yours as it does mine >> ... Peace... Georgia Rose